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The Working Woman’s Guide to Feeling Less Drained and More Grounded
- Kimberly Ba, AFPA-CHWC
- Jan 2
- 5 min read
A compassionate, relatable guide for working women who are tired of running on empty and are ready for less emotional exhaustion, more calm, and a life that finally feels supportive again.
If you have been feeling drained lately in ways you cannot quite put into words, you are not alone. So many working women are functioning, performing, meeting expectations, showing up for people, and still somehow feeling emotionally worn down underneath it all.
It is not just that you are tired. It is that your mind is overstimulated, your nervous system is tense, and your emotional energy is stretched thin.
This guide is not about “doing more,” being tougher, or pushing harder. It is about stress relief for working women in a real, human way. It is about burnout prevention that takes your emotional life seriously, not just your productivity.
And more than anything, it is about helping you reconnect with yourself so life feels livable again… maybe even peaceful again.
When functioning becomes the norm… but your body still feels exhausted
Working women often live two realities at once. There is the life people see: the responsibilities handled, the deadlines met, the face you present at work, the strength everyone assumes you have. Then there is the life inside: the overwhelm, the heaviness, the mental load, the quiet exhaustion you rarely say out loud.
Some days it may look like:
feeling mentally overstimulated even when you are “off”
surviving the week instead of experiencing it
becoming emotionally tired from constant decision making, emotional holding, and caring for everyone else
So pause gently and ask yourself:
When was the last time you felt deeply rested — not just physically still, but emotionally steady?
For many working women, it has been a while. And that does not make you weak. It makes you human. Your nervous system was never meant to be in constant survival mode.
This is not happening because you are failing — here is why women feel this drained
Burnout rarely comes from laziness or lack of strength. It often comes from the opposite: being too responsible for too long. Being dependable. Being the one who keeps going.
Being the one people lean on.
Working women carry so much:
• expectations at work
• emotional responsibilities at home
• invisible labor and constant planning
• the pressure to stay “strong” while inside you feel overwhelmed
• digital exhaustion from being reachable and responsive nonstop
Your mind keeps problem-solving.
Your emotions keep holding space.
Your nervous system keeps bracing.
Burnout prevention starts with acknowledging reality: you are tired not because you are incapable, but because you have been carrying more than your nervous system was designed to hold alone.
A grounding reflection to sit with:
What part of your life feels the heaviest right now: the expectations, the workload, the emotional pressure, or the constant availability?
Naming it matters. Awareness is the beginning of care.
Let’s talk about what feeling grounded actually looks like
Grounded does not mean perfect. It does not mean having everything together. It does not mean life never gets hard or stressful.
Feeling grounded simply means your life does not constantly overwhelm your emotional capacity anymore.
It feels like:
• breathing without bracing
• not needing to perform calmness because calm is actually present
• feeling steady instead of holding tension all day
• having emotional space to actually feel, not just function
A powerful question to reflect on:
If you were not always “holding it together,” who would you get to be?
That is where emotional healing lives — not in strength, but in softness, humanity, and truth.
During the workday: relief does not always mean doing less — sometimes it means feeling safer inside your day
Here is the truth: many working women are not only exhausted by the workload. They are exhausted by how they have to hold themselves emotionally while they work.
Stress relief for working women is not always about quitting jobs or making dramatic changes. Sometimes it is about small, deeply human shifts that change how your nervous system experiences your workday.
This might look like:
giving yourself permission to pause instead of powering through every feeling
letting your nervous system reset instead of pretending stress is not affecting you
not forcing “strength” when what you really need is grounding
Try asking yourself during the day:
How do I actually feel right now, and what would help my body soften even 2% more?
Sometimes that 2% shift is the beginning of preventing burnout.
What happens after work matters just as much as what happens at work
Burnout prevention is not only a workplace conversation. It is a whole-life conversation.
Some women leave work physically but never leave emotionally. The body goes home. The mind stays clocked in. The nervous system remains tense.
Evenings become collapse instead of restoration.
Weekends become recovery instead of renewal.
Rest becomes guilt or avoidance instead of nourishment.
This is not about adding more “self-care tasks” to your plate. It is about understanding that your system needs care the same way your job needs commitment.
Ask yourself:
Do my evenings help me heal, or do they simply help me cope?
Do my habits help me feel softer, calmer, steadier — or just distracted?
Start noticing what makes you exhale instead of numb out. There is wisdom there.
When burnout starts whispering… and then it starts getting louder
Burnout rarely arrives suddenly. It creeps in slowly. Quietly. Subtly. Until your system can no longer whisper and starts speaking louder.
Burnout may sound like:
waking up tired even when you sleep
feeling more irritable, sensitive, or withdrawn
losing joy or emotional connection to your own life
going through the motions instead of really living your days
feeling like everything is “too much,” even simple things
If some of this feels true for you, pause for a moment and simply acknowledge it:
“I am noticing that I am more exhausted than I want to be, and that matters.”
Awareness is not weakness. It is self-respect.
Which one of those signs feels most familiar to you lately?
That truth deserves your compassion.
Finding your way back to yourself will not happen overnight — and it does not have to
This is the part that so many women forget: you are allowed to come back to yourself gently.
Burnout prevention is not about forcing happiness or convincing yourself to just “be positive.” It is about safety. Nervous system regulation. Boundaries that honor your humanity. Rest that actually restores you.
It is about:
• allowing stillness
• choosing emotional honesty
• honoring capacity instead of ignoring it
• asking for support when you need it
• reclaiming your right to feel like a person, not a machine
Here is a grounding reflection to sit with:
If your body and emotions could speak honestly, without worrying about disappointing anyone, what would they ask you to change?
Your answer matters. More than your performance. More than perception. More than expectations.
You deserve to live a life you can feel present in
You deserve steadiness. You deserve tenderness. You deserve rest. You deserve emotional safety in your own life. Not because you “earned it.” Not because you did enough to deserve care. Simply because you exist.
Burnout prevention begins with believing you are worthy of a life that does not consistently drain you.
Stress relief for working women is possible. Emotional grounding is possible. Feeling like yourself again is possible.
Take your time. Be gentle with yourself. Let yourself grow back into your own life.
If this resonated with you, you may also find these deeply supportive:
There is nothing wrong with needing support. There is everything right with choosing yourself again.
As always, see you at the next post. ❤️
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